THE UNEXPECTED BENEFITS OF HAVING A WEDDING PARTY MAY SURPRISE YOU-UNDERSTANDING THE POSITIVE EMOTIONAL AND SOCIAL EFFECTS OF YOUR WEDDING DAY
I know you are in love with the wedding planning process. Wow, the day you always dreamed of having or the day you always dread being unable to have has come!
It's beautiful when I go back to my wedding and think of the joy I felt every time I went out to see paper for invitations, wedding favors, ribbons, every time I went to try on my wedding dress, the cake's appointment, and the meetings that I had with my wedding florist.
We live in a world where we are a little impressed daily by the small things in life. We created these busy lives, run and rush, and teach our children to live like that.
I hope you will celebrate all of your holidays with the same intensity you will celebrate your wedding day. Still, the reality is that over time, you will stop celebrating many of the dates you hold so tight today.
In marriage, there will be times when illness will be present and when family members will be missed in special or important celebrations.
School celebrations will come, doctors' appointments or hormonal imbalances will come and go, so the most important advice I can offer you today has to do with the power of determination.
Be determined to enjoy every valentine, every Christmas, every easter, every thanksgiving, or anniversary even though they will not be like they used to be.
One day, it will not be about both of you anymore, but it will be about your children and how you want them to remember these special dates at home.
Being away from home makes a wife and future mom's journey pretty lonely, and you have to hold very tight to the memories of the past, and we forget that those times passed, and we need to put them in the treasure of our hearts and lock them down so we can open them again when the gray hairs come.
Why?
Once you are married, you are responsible for creating new beautiful memories for you and future generations. The enemy will always want to appear and spoil your celebrations by kicking out the joy of your life. This is why it's better to invite the Holy Spirit to celebrate with us at every special celebration so we can always have a smile of contentment.
Life will no longer be the same, but we choose if we want this life to be even more rewarding than it is right now and honor our parent's or grandparents' legacy by being able to continue the chain of joy and good memories for our future children.
For many brides-to-be, a wedding is a dream come true. They remember being at weddings when they were children; a wedding represents a family tradition for many, and many brides plan their weddings according to their remembrances of the weddings they attended when they were children.
I remember as if yesterday, the day I encountered a cup of almonds that my mom received as a favor from a wedding. Those memories inspired me to design my wedding favors.
My cake was inspired by a memory of the past and the flower girl baskets and tiaras, ring bearer pillow, cake water fountain, and more.
I bet some of those childhood memories also inspire you while planning your wedding day.
And as it is happening to you, your wedding will be the inspiration many girls will have for their future weddings, so don’t forget to invite children to your wedding ;)
A wedding is an opportunity to create lasting memories for everyone there, and it is a perfect space to remember those who are not on this earth anymore.
Remembering the ones already in heaven and honoring their memories will give a nostalgic mode to your wedding that people will never forget. Remember to celebrate their lives so the next generations can learn from their story too.
As you can see, your wedding is not just important for you if not for all the people you love. Your wedding will provide good vibes and remind your loved people that life is full of beautiful moments. The opportunity to go to your wedding will give an emotional boost to those who feel lonely or discouraged.
So remember to make a little space for those living alone.
The power of old
As I mentioned in this blog if you have the extra money to invest in a wedding planner, do it. Having a wedding planner will help you save energy to spend on the big day and not look so tired. Your wedding will be one day in your lifetime, so it's worth investing in it.
Of course, don't hesitate to celebrate every one of the upcoming anniversaries with the same love and passion as you celebrate your wedding. Important or special dates to mark are a great part of maintaining the joy in marriage and not losing yourself in it.
Do not hesitate to incorporate family traditions in your wedding and continue celebrating special events or decorating your home and rooms as you used to do when you were single.
You don't have to lose the one you are and become another woman once you are married. Your essence is reflected according to the way you have been celebrating special days in your life.
High expectations for joy
Planning a wedding can be a joyful experience, but for some brides, it can be a stressful time in their lives. High expectations regarding the wedding will always take an extra toll on every bride's mental health.
I recommend leaving space to lower your expectations for the sake of peace and calm. If you want high expectations for your wedding, enjoy the moment the best you can and forget about the rest, especially if you have already hired a wedding planner.
I know that it is not wise to involve family members in your wedding planning as little by little they will try to change your wedding according to their desires, but did I tell you that you can allow them to fully prepare as many bridal showers as they want for you? ( ahahaha) That's the perfect assigned job to keep them entertained.
You can use their help to prepare the favors and other keepsakes you will also give at the wedding.
When planning days are stressful, make time to go to that traditional cafe or restaurant you went to with your parents. Going to places that give us joy is a great way to regain our lost energy.
Because we are talking about high expectations, make room to make the best of this planning process.
Take time to listen to wedding music as long as you want, buy all the bride’s magazines every time you go to a supermarket, buy every bride’s subscription box you want to purchase, and go to those wedding or bridal expos in your city, eat and enjoy all of the free samples, too :)
Have high expectations for joy. Six months of planning will be just the beginning of an exciting adventure!
Your wedding has the power to minimize pain and trauma
As I told you in this post, some brides will have to get married under unfortunate and unexpected circumstances. Naturally, a bride wonders whether to proceed with or cancel her wedding plans.
It will be natural to feel guilt to have a happy moment while others are mourning.
Sometimes, your wedding will differ from what you have planned or imagined. But before I get you discouraged, let me tell you that you don't have to feel this way.
The reality is that your wedding will not bring back someone that passed away or will not change the medical test results, but your wedding can be an excellent contributor to minimizing trauma in someone's life. Your wedding will provide hope and a glimpse of happiness and joy to those who most need it.
They will not have to continue focusing on past experiences, but they and you can build solid and joyful memories. Your wedding will be a place where family and friends will connect. You never know if your wedding is where lonely people find companionship.
Your wedding may not last one week as it used to for some cultures in the past, but it will provide quality time for you and the people you care about the most.
Your wedding has the potential to contribute to a better world! Yeiiii!
You can share your faith at your wedding
If you're a Christian like me, I am sure you want to share the gospel with all the people that surround you :)
Unfortunately, we can not preach in our workplaces or schools, but you can do it at your wedding!
You don't have to preach the whole Bible in your wedding, but you can incorporate the Bible in your wedding. How?
You can fill your wedding signs with Bible verses that mean a lot for your boyfriend and you. You can incorporate them in your favors, table numbers, escort cards, etc.
You can take advantage of the wedding and tell them what John 3:16 is about. It will not take so long, and in the end, the gospel is resumed on this Bible verse.
Don't worry. No one will judge you because you can share your beliefs at your wedding. You can have a Christian-inspired wedding!
Finally, let the people know what you believe, why, and the reasons you hold so tight to your faith.
You will be a seed sower while getting married. Look at that!!!
the perfect opportunity to start working on boundaries in some relationships
Don't be surprised if your family or friends tell you that since you got the ring, you have changed.___________.
They will never understand that you work and plan a wedding simultaneously, oh I almost forgot, and you do that while trying to do life on a budget.
We must keep others people's high expectations for our wedding away from us. We will never be able to fill their needs.
It can cause pressure on us not to be able to go out with friends all the weeks as we did before the engagement. It can sound weird not to call mom every day, too.
Unless you want to collapse, take those comments seriously. Tell them you love them and still care for them. Let them know that you know they love you and that you hope they understand you.
Wedding planning is the perfect opportunity to start working on limits and boundaries in some relationships that need a little pruning.
Now, a wedding can be a big distractor from our future husband. Unlike your friends, you can not put aside your boyfriend's needs to communicate and have time with you like before.
You must continue doing the same things you are used to, like going to the movie theater, church, chatting, or talking by cellphone. He is the only one you cannot put aside to plan the wedding. The wedding planning is an excellent opportunity to learn how to stay connected to each other while talking about stress, money, in-laws, and more.
YOu can learn the power to spend on a budget
We must embrace the fact that people will compare your wedding with the one they went to before. Don't take it personally; it's just human nature.
You don't have to be enslaved by people's high expectations regarding your wedding, especially when you are on a budget.
The truth is that at least five people will say that the wedding was awful. (Just to put a random number to it)
One will say it for jealousy, and the other four out of toxicity. ( hahaha)
If you are a bride with a limited budget to spend on a wedding for your reasons, get rid of external financial pressures and be determined to enjoy your wedding. Why? Because it's your money, you are spending.
Planning a wedding around a budget will minimize all the external pressures, as one of the goals of having a budget is spending wisely and being disciplined about the money that costs a lot of time and effort to get.
When a bride has no budget for her wedding, she will spend all her money on unimportant things, leaving no space to invest in what matters, like the honeymoon and future home and furniture, to say some things.
Another thing, never be ashamed to ask for money for your wedding gifts. It can sound unpolite and rude to some people, but that's not your problem but theirs. When asking for money, you can minimize the cost of the wedding and, who knows, even make a profit from it :)
Remember my first post? You don't need one million-dollar wedding to prove your worth to others. Having a budget always brings peace of mind.
Of course, if you are a millionaire future wife, indulge in wise overspending.
Handling job while getting married
Getting married while you are working can be very stressful, and your calm and mood can depend on your job position, and it has a lot to do with the season of the year you are in.
Imagine planning the wedding while working in a department store during the holiday season. Do you think a bride will have all the energy to invest in planning her wedding?
Looking to get married in a season you are most relaxed at work is a great idea to avoid burnout. If you can take some time off your work while planning the wedding, don't hesitate and do it. I know it can be challenging financially, but your mental health will thank you.
When choosing the wedding date, always leave space to get married when you have a low workload, or if you are lucky to skip the holiday season, and invest the time on your honeymoon, go for it!
I know you are already thinking about the commodity of your guests and if they can go to your wedding due to their demanding jobs, but you have to think about yourself and your boyfriend when choosing a wedding date. It's easier to agree with one more person than with 50 people.
Your job does not have to add stress to the wedding planning if you plan your wedding ahead.
The wedding is a time to enjoy, relax and slow down from daily and demanding routines. It's not meant to bring stress to brides and grooms, but we live in a time when the good is becoming stressful.
The wedding is meant for you to enjoy and embrace this moment that will be in your mind your whole life. I can say the same for jobs too :)
Jobs are a blessing from the lord! ( Ecclesiastes 3:22)
So, while you are planning your wedding, let me tell you that your job is not a curse but a blessing.
You are free to design the wedding of your dreams at your own pace and expectations. When you do so, life becomes sweeter.
I want you to remember this wedding season with joy and illusion, not about the time you almost die from a heart attack.
Take care♥
What will the most important part of the wedding be for you? How do you plan to cope with your family and friends' high expectations regarding your wedding? Are you committed to yourself to enjoy your wedding no matter what?
Let me know what you think :)
