What is the purpose of the honeymoon and why you should plan for The Honey Moon Experience and beyond

Planning for the honeymoon is as important as planning for the wedding. Yep, just like you heard it.

Brides often forget so much about the honeymoon, and they focus all their efforts and energies on the wedding day.

As you have seen in many romantic movies by now, the honeymoon is a stage of romantic love where no defects or mistakes in the loved one are found. The honeymoon is meant to be those memories you should always look back on when things don’t go well in the marriage. Yes, unfortunately, bad days will come.

Many people call the honeymoon a stage where you get blind; yes, everyone can see the mistakes, but not you.

There are a lot of positive emotions that play a role in a couple’s attachment, and because this beautiful stage of life will be very useful for your future, today I will be sharing with you some facts about the honeymoon.

The Neurochemistry of Love

During the honeymoon phase, our brains are flooded with neurochemicals that contribute to the euphoria and excitement we feel. Dopamine, often called the "pleasure neurotransmitter," is released in abundance, leading to feelings of joy, motivation, and reward. This surge of dopamine is responsible for the exhilarating sensation we experience with our partner during this phase. Additionally, norepinephrine contributes to the heightened energy and attention that people often report feeling during the honeymoon period. It’s a period of constant staring, laughing, and admiration.

Many couples lose the magic of these moments when jealous in-laws or relatives want to join the party on the honeymoon. Yes, my dear, just like you read it. I think it is very selfish on their part to want to experience these moments again in their life at the cost of the newlyweds. Having relatives nearby distracts the couple from what should be their main focus, which is each other. No cell phones should be allowed, and little communication should be held with the outside world to keep this memory intact.

Maybe you are surprised to read this statement, but sometimes you must fight back for these special moments in your life. Remember always this “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full” (John 10:10).

If mom or dad are mad because you don’t want to take them with you, leave the matter to God and remember one thing: “The two shall become one.”Matthew 19:5

People can have a lot of beautiful moments with you; don’t feel guilty or selfish for enjoying this moment, and do not let others steal it from you.

Attachment and Bonding

The honeymoon phase also provides an opportunity to form strong emotional bonds and attachments between partners. According to attachment theory, individuals have varying attachment styles, such as secure, anxious, or avoidant. During the honeymoon phase, the secure attachment style tends to be dominant, as both partners feel a strong sense of connection and safety in each other's presence. This opportunity can happen even though you come from a non-secure or anxious attachment style with your parents. This phase offers a glimpse of the potential for a deep and meaningful emotional connection. Communication is essential, but so are hugs and snuggles.

Many people have the wrong concept that this stage is just about sex, but it is more than that. It is a stage where you enjoy and know each other profoundly. Many people get married to be better persons or to be healed from past insecurities and traumas. Others get married because they hate being alone, and in the end, they become lonelier because when you marry someone, you are just adding to what you have inside.

Do not spend your time discussing traumas and worries about what will happen next; believe me; you will have tons of time to talk about this in the long run. Start creating the beautiful habit of focusing on the bright side, being grateful, resting, and enjoying the day. Learn how to rest, give, and receive. You will need it!

Idealization and Positive Bias

One of the intriguing psychological aspects of the honeymoon phase is the tendency to idealize one's partner and view them through a positive lens. There is no man like yours! And you know, it is good and healthy to feel this way. Many people hesitate to surrender themselves to this idea and prevent themselves from enjoying romantic love for fear of what will happen to them if this guy leaves them in the future. Well, my dear, “ …tomorrow will take care of itself.” Matthew 6:34

This phenomenon, known as the "positive bias," can lead individuals to focus on their partner's strengths while downplaying or ignoring potential flaws. This idealization contributes to the intense feelings of happiness and infatuation experienced during this phase. However, as the relationship progresses, this bias might give way to a more realistic understanding of each other's imperfections. Eventually, as everyone has told you, trouble will come to your marriage, but if you have taken the right steps before that happens, your marriage will not only survive but will be stronger than ever.

Transitioning Beyond the Honeymoon Phase

As time goes on, the honeymoon phase naturally begins to wane. The neurochemical highs and idealized perceptions gradually fade, making way for a deeper, more stable connection. This transition can be challenging for some couples as they shift from passionate intensity to a more grounded companionship; that’s why you have heard that marrying your best friend is the best that could happen. This phase is an essential part of relationship development, allowing partners to understand each other on a deeper level and build a foundation of trust and mutual support.

I think, in a way, no one likes to feel nervous or have those butterflies in their stomach for years; I think nobody could endure that fate. This companionship stage will help you to be more connected and not to be so focused on being served and enjoying but on the beautiful act of loving and serving the other.

Maintaining the Spark

While the honeymoon phase might not last forever, there are ways to inject moments of passion and excitement into a long-term relationship. Engaging in novel and exciting activities can trigger dopamine release and rekindle the spark. Communication also plays a crucial role; discussing each other's needs, desires, and feelings can help maintain emotional intimacy and connection.

When you finally say you are married to your best friend, you will always feel in love. You will enjoy his company, the things he says, the news he brings home, and, of course, he will enjoy those hours of you talking about your day.

The one who told you your happiness would not last is lying and envious of you. Your marriage does not have to end like others have told you, especially if you come from a broken home.

Nowadays, more and more people are marrying emotions, not the person. People marry for what the person makes them feel, not because of who the person is. A marriage, under those terms, will not survive.

Conclusion

The honeymoon phase is a captivating psychological phenomenon highlighting the intricate interplay between neurochemistry, attachment, and human emotions. It serves as a reminder of the intense joy that new relationships can bring and the potential for deep emotional connections. Understanding the psychological aspects of the honeymoon phase can offer valuable insights into relationship dynamics, helping couples navigate the transitions that come with the evolution of their bond. The best part of everything is that even though you get to have a not-so-dreamy honeymoon, you will always have the time ahead to plan for a new one when you live by yourselves. You will always have the opportunity to mend what once was wrong. Marriage will never be perfect and that’s what makes it beautiful!

Take care ♥

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